How to Choose Pallbearers
If you have decided to have a loved one buried in a traditional manner after a funeral service, you will need to have pallbearers. Many people leave the choosing of the pallbearers to the last minute, but this is not a good idea. If you are starting to make arrangements for your loved one’s service, you will want to start choosing pallbearers. Osceola Memory Gardens, a funeral home in Kissimmee, FL recommends considering the following things.
The first thing you need to do is to sit down and make a list of potential candidates. Consider who was closest to your loved one and who would have been someone the deceased would have wanted to carry their casket. Take some time with putting this list together and ask for help if you need to from people you trust. Depending on the kind of casket you have purchased or personal preference, you may need to choose up eight names.
Once you have a few names, you need to think if they are people who are healthy enough to be able to do the task. You will also have to keep in mind that a funeral service is a tough thing to go through. Not everyone will be able to go through it and then carry the casket to its resting place. People who tend to get very emotional are not the best option for pallbearers.
You will want to ask the people you are considering about whether or not they want to do this. Not everyone will want to be a pallbearer, despite the honor it might be for them. Some people will want to try to get closure at the service, which they might feel they cannot do while worrying about being part of the service. It is usually a very difficult decision for people to make, so do not try to change their mind. They will know what is best for them.
You will, of course, want to have a few extra names in mind so that if someone does decide not to be a pallbearer, you already have someone else in mind. This is another reason why you should ask the people you want as pallbearers as soon as possible. You should also ask them to give you a definitive answer quickly so that you can prepare.
These tips can help you find the pallbearers that you want for the funeral service of a loved one. It is not easy to make these decisions because you, too, will be dealing with grief, but it is important that you do so early. This will give the people you are considering time to decide whether or not they want to be pallbearers and it will allow you time to find other people if they do not. To learn more about this process, reach out to a funeral home like us at Osceola Memory Gardens Cemetery, Funeral Homes & Crematory. We are here to help you through every step of the process. Visit us at 1717 old Boggy Creek Rd, Kissimmee, FL 34744 or call us at (407) 847-2494.
